When life and relationships feel difficult - it helps to have a map
Discover The I Matter® Relationship Health Learning Journey
Equip yourself with practical, evidence-informed learning for parents, carers, professionals and organisations.
Develop understanding and skills for living and working with children and other adults—that most people were never taught
through small steps and just 10–15 minutes of reflection a day.
I’m Dr Cathy Betoin, a clinical psychologist, former teacher and parent. Over more than 30 years of working alongside adults, children, families, schools and professionals, I kept seeing how often caring, committed people felt confused or stuck when relationships became difficult.
I developed the I Matter Framework to bring important ideas from psychology, child development and relationship research together into an accessible map for everyday life—first to help me, then to help others.
You don’t need to have all the answers. You can start by becoming curious about what is happening, what may be missing and what could help.
Adult-child and adult-adult relationships of all sorts can be challenging!
Across many different situations, I kept encountering the same five gaps that made life and relationships harder than they needed to be:
- Not knowing what to focus on
- Not understanding how healthy relationships develop
- Teams and families pulling in different directions
- Feeling uncertain about your role and what makes a difference
- Finding conflict difficult to navigate constructively
That is why I created the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey
—and why I started Let’s Talk Relationship Health to encourage wider conversations, particularly within organisations and communities.
Where would you like to begin?
Choose the starting point that most closely fits your current interest.
Council-funded I Matter Fundamentals places are available for professionals working in Kendal schools.
Relationship health is relevant at every stage of life and in every role. The skills of adults are especially important for the development and resilience of children and young people. Whether you are learning for yourself, preparing for a parenting or caring role, developing your professional understanding, or funding learning for others, everyone begins with the same practical I Matter foundations.
What people say about I Matter
People are using the ideas to understand more and make a practical difference at home and at work.
Everything is going so much better and my daughter is really blossoming in her own way. I am forever grateful that you helped me see the wood from the trees.
Parent
The way the ideas are brought together creates a beautiful and accessible map for anyone interested in improving their relationship health.
Professional
I Matter has given GPs, schools and services a shared language and structure that helps us understand our roles and support young people and families more effectively.
GP
HOW THE I MATTER RELATIONSHIP HEALTH LEARNING JOURNEY WORKS:
The learning journey supports you through a carefully structured process - you can progress in small bite-sized steps
👉 New to I Matter? Start with an introduction
EXPLORE IT
Dip your toe in
Free content
+ Introduction courses
+ Get Started Workshops
+ Let's Talk RH for organisations
LEARN IT
Build your understanding of:
+ Relationship Health
+ The I Matter Framework
+ Behaviour, stress and relationships
+ Your role
LIVE IT
Apply the ideas:
in everyday situations
+ in home situations
+ in work or community
+ improve what is happening
+ help yourself, help others
SHARE IT
Start conversations:
with others
+ support a shared language;
+ encourage curiosity
+ progress joined up thinking
+ build resilient communities
What's inside the Learning Journey?
- structured online learning;
- short videos and visual resources;
- practical reflection activities;
- optional live workshops and study support;
- opportunities to apply the ideas at home, at work and in the community.
For organisationS
Bring relationship-health learning into your organisation
I Matter Training helps schools, health services and community organisations introduce a shared language for relationship health and build the confidence of the adults supporting children and families.
Organisations can begin with Let’s Talk Relationship Health, fund learning for staff or families, and develop participation at a pace that fits their priorities and capacity.
Explore options for organisationsPossible starting points
- Start useful conversations
- Develop shared understanding
- Support staff learning
- Assist access for families
About Dr Cathy Betoin
- Clinical Psychologist with 30+ years with adults and young people of all ages
- Founder of I Matter Training and Relationship Health Matters CIC
- Author of 'Relationship Health, What's That?' and 'Relationship Health, The Missing Link'
My hope is that the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey can support more preparation, prevention and early intervention.
It is never too late to turn things around.
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I Matter Training
The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the thinking about relationship health and the I Matter Framework as a foundation for how we work together to support people who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together.
Dr Amy Lee , GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community
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I Matter Training
We are working with increasingly complex and unmet needs in schools. I Matter helps give structure, shared language, and a foundation for working with families in a more connected way.
School Leader , Pastoral Roles, Class Teacher and Parent
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I Matter Training
Considering adults’ needs alongside children’s needs has been transformative. I realised how much my own stress was affecting my family, and that changing this changes everything.
Parent , Parent of teenager with challenges
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I Matter Training
This training in relationship health and the I Matter Framework has influenced my work and home life in very practical ways — from professional practice to parenting and business decisions. It has changed how I understand myself, and my clients, in relationships under pressure.
Independent Psychotherapist , Parent and Small Business Owner
What is Relationship Health?
What is Relationship Health?
Relationship Health is a new term that invites reflection and discussion. It impacts how we regulate stress and experience wellbeing with others.
The term relationship health invites us to consider whether what is happening between us and others is supportive and respectful or needs adjusting
Relationship Health is both internal and external and a community issue. In a fast changing world it is also a resilience and a maturity issue.
Health starts from a stance of I Matter–You Matter and builds on the skills of Connect-Contribute-Repair, across all life domains, set out in the Wheel.
Like physical health, relationship health can be explored, understood, strengthened, measured and supported.
It is often easier to identify what is not relationship health, but as a lifelong process it can strengthen as we develop new insights and skills.
Relationship health is possible when adults and young people develop awareness so they can see, stay, and respond differently under pressure.
What Relationship Health learning is in practice
Most people don’t need more relationship advice — they need a way to make sense of it and use it in real life.
The I Matter Framework is a simple, visual learning system that helps people understand relationship health and develop skills for confidence
People learn step by step through entry level Get Started workshops and the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey, supported by Community Wheel sessions where they reflect, connect with others, and apply ideas in real situations.
It translates research in mental health, child development, resiliency, systems, and communication into practical insights for everyday relationships.
Learning I Matter is like gaining a map for real life relationships.
What this learning helps you do
What an understanding of relationship health and the I Matter Framework will help you do
With an understanding of relationship health and the I Matter Framework you and your teams, families and communities will be better able to:
- Become less reactive and respond more calmly and effectively under pressure,
- Make sense of confusing or repeated patterns and know how to respond more constructively
- Recognise stress responses in behaviour and communication and respond in ways that reduce tension and escalation
- Understand the process of conflict and repair in adult-adult and adult-child relationships
- Build confidence in supporting yourself and others in everyday relationships
People can begin applying ideas immediately in everyday situations, and develop confidence and depth for managing difficult situations over time.
Who will this interest?
This learning tends to appeal to determined people who are curious about relationships and want practical positive options for .
It provides starting points for a shared language between professionals and non-professionals so they can work better together.
It can support preparation, prevention and early intervention as well as offering a way forward for those in current challenging situations.
It can be progressed through self-paced or supported learning so offers an extremely flexible method of building professional and family confidence.
Supporting Relationship Health
This work is part of a wider effort to make relationship health more visible, practical and accessible in everyday life.
You can support this through learning, partnership or contributing to community-based projects.
👉 Support our Fundraising via GoodHub
Help shape the next stages of the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey.
This is also an active development project - are you interested in contributing?
Help shape the next stages of the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey.
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